What’s in a friendship?
True friendships have deep roots!
Fair-weather friends are those friends who are there for you in a superficial sort of way. Sunshine attracts their presence, but sadly the rain repels them. As long as the ride is smooth and the waters are calm and flowing, they are readily available. However, at the first sign of turbulence and distress, they become terribly busy and mostly unavailable.Good, lasting friendships are priceless! I tell my children all the time that good friends are keepers, but not everyone who will cross your path is meant to be a permanent fixture in your life. Some acquaintances are for a short season, and some are not even for that. In such cases, it’s better to leave them as passing ships with no anchor in your life.
Proverbs 17 states, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (v. 17). A true friend loves in times of prosperity, for they are not envious; a true friend loves in times of hardship, for they are able to empathize sincerely.
Scripture teaches that there are brothers and sisters (not necessarily biological, but brothers and sisters in Christ) who are born for adversity. They are born to be a help! These are special people who are born to comfort and help their brothers and sisters in distress – with all sincerity. What kind of friend are you? Do you seek to give the full advantage, or do you seek to take the advantage? True friends esteem one another better than themselves (Phil. 2:3). And our primary picture of a true friend is found in the example of Christ.
Christ Jesus is a true friend.
In Him is the epitome of a friend. Harsh weather, fierce winds and torrential downpours provide no intimidation nor discouragement for Him. He helps us in our infirmities, and He sticks closer than a brother (Prov. 18:24). Our Lord never turns His back on us. He is near to the broken hearted; He heals and binds up deep wounds (Psalm 34:18; 147:3).
What a friend we have in Jesus! One who assumed the penalty for sin – the penalty that belonged to each one of us, individually, and He took it upon Himself. Because He cares so much for us, we ought to care much for one another. Let us examine ourselves to see what kind of friend we are to others. We don’t want lopsided friendships: we can go to them in difficulties, but they can’t come to us.
Be exactly what you want!
We need to be the friend to others that we want others to be to us.